We all try to be superwomen like Alicia Keys, except the “S” stands for Sexy, Savvy, Supreme and other self-described superlatives. You may be single, married, with children or not, but your domestic divaness is on point. You cook, clean, flip through that paper or digital calendar and do it rocking the flyest and the lastest. Real talk–I don’t do all that, at least not looking cute, anyway.

But as a little girl, I always wanted to be the quintessential stay-at-home-mom. I wanted to work, but ideally, it would be from home, and I would glamoursously and painlessly stay on top of those pots and pans, entertain like I was a rich woman in the Hampton’s (Barefoot Contessa comes to mind, but is she in Martha’s Vineyard??—Where she at y’all???), and be the empire building diva with a fit body, fly wardrobe, spotless house, and a bustling date book full of exciting appointments.

I’ve got about 70% down, with the more important things like fit body and spotless house falling by the wayside. Hey, I am the most perfectly imperfect woman out there and lord knows I bristle at the thought of bringing a husband and kids into my life considering the responsibility that comes with it. Still, many of you are wearing all those female superhero hats very well, holding it down effectively and managing households as effectively as you manage your business.

If not, then cop these four books that have helped me over the years:

1. Making a Home: Housekeeping For Real Life (Better Homes & Gardens). This is the mother of alllll household management books. This colorful, photo and illustration heavy book shows you everything from how to correctly fold fitted sheets to how to properly set a table. LOVES IT AND LIVES BY IT!

2. Household Hints & Handy Tips. I had to jack my mom for this book when I left home. As a teen, I scoured through it to learn how to stop hiccups, how to fix a broken plate, how to unclog a drain, and how to paint designs on a bedroom wall. If you want a small home management guide, although dated, this is the one our mom’s may have trusted.

3. Housekeeping Secrets My Mother Never Taught Me. I remember bringing this book to work at one of my first jobs so I could read on my break ( told you I ate this stuff up because I wanted to be Emily Post and B. Smith at the same time) and a nasty coworker saying, “What? So your mom didn’t show you how to clean up?” Of course, she did you old bitter weirdo, but she couldn’t know every use of baking soda known to man or how to get rid of ants using cayenne pepper as opposed to boric acid. If you like tips and home remedies, this is THE book to get.

4. Confessions of an Organized Homemaker: The Secrets of Uncluttering Your Home and Taking Control of Your Life. I read about three quarters of this book and my head started to hurt. If I get my wish, one day I will be an organized homemaker. Until then, this book helps me to let go of clutter, and not to keep holding on to things for sentimental value. Another plus, they suggested having friends who are unattached to your stuff, to help you get right of it. A great idea indeed!

We all need a little help from time to time, getting our lives and households in order. These titles are great references to keep on a kitchen shelf and to read on a lazy afternoon.

We divas must work to maintain our divaship. What you don’t know, learn. Let’s rightly put on our Superwoman shirts and run this world (or kitchen) girls!